Perceptions...

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Everyone perceives themselves in their own way. Some are bold, others are shy.. some are creative.. others are constructive.

I guess what I wanna know is...Do you see yourself as something different to how everyone else sees you?

What's more important to you? how someone else perceives you.. or how u perceive yourself.

I'm not looking for the theoretical answer... just an honest one.

Is the person you see staring back at you in the mirror different to what we all see of you here at the forum?

Don't be shy to be open... no ones judging...

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bee are bee
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**Crazy Painter** Posts : 1580

Thnks fr opening this up henna...

I guess perceptions matter a lott fr an individual..atleast fr me...

I guess more than wht I perceive of myself...I get scared to knw hw ppl perceive me...

Whether they dont get any wrong impressions which I might nt carry with me too....

For me...both are imp...bt ppl's views get scary fr me....though I wd like to believe tht m quite a good personality within!!

**Thanedaar** Posts : 1802

nyc 1 jaan!
well.....i feel i am defo that kinda person who percieves herself differently frm others
nd yhh.....i think i relli am a different person in regard 2 wat ppl think...bt im more interestd and more worried about how other ppl feel bout me nd nt wat i do myslf!
sum ppl rnt as black as painted....nd dey r jst happy 2 b dat way....y gt paintd black den????
huh
i kno quite ajeeb sa nd philosophical....bt thtz da truth!!
i agree perceptions do matter nd atleast fr me...dey surely do!!
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**Thanedaar** Posts : 943

Great topic JB :applause:

Perceptions...well most people when they see me perceive me as very arrogant..that's the first impression I give out...and the truth is the complete opposite, I'm extremely reserved and never talk to people unless I know them well...and if I do start talking, don't even do it much coz of the same reason...

Previously I used to care a whole lot about what people thought of me, but something happened to change my outlook on life and since then, I just care about what I and my family think.....

What I am with friends is the real me, no put-ons about it at all!!!
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**Administrator** Posts : 1531

wow.. this has sparked some descriptive thought...will reply personally to some of the points you people have mentioned after answering the questions myself..

I'm not sure how everyone else perceives me coz I'm sort of a mood and time dependant person. If u catch me at the right time I'll the friendliest person on the planet. Catch me at the wrong time and I doubt we'll talk again. lol

... so I can't really say if the perception of myself is different from that of yours.

Do I care what other people say? Surprisingly, YES I do!

Do I want to care about what people are saying? NO! I don't but I just can't help it. Sometimes I let it affect me a lot but in the end I make myself understand the problem doesn't lie with me but with the opinionated person. It's actually quite hard to convince youself fully though sometimes.

My theory for caring about what others say and think is that... When someone says something to you.. that you don't think about yourself you get caught up more in the dilemma about 'WHY' they said that about you when u don't believe it's true...

n the only answer to why they said it is... yeh duniya kameeni hai... can't see anyone being happy... Rolling Eyes

Anyways nothing can be done coz you don't have full control over your emotions - wish we did.

I guess, the way I appear on the forum is the way I am in reality too.

I speak my mind...
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**Thanedaar** Posts : 785

Do you see yourself as something different to how everyone else sees you?
perhaps yes..many ppl think that i'm a very serious person who doesnt like to get along well with others but the thing is that i just tend to take my own time..i cant b open to everybody, there r really very few ppl with whom i share my feelings..n also, meri shakal dekh k koi nahi keh sakta k mujhe kitna gussa aata hoga, but when i get angry, oh ho ho, even i dont like myself..so i always receive comments like 'haww..amrit,itna gussa acha nahi hai'

What's more important to you? how someone else perceives you.. or how u perceive yourself.

how some1 else perceives me hardly affects me..y to think of it n waste my time..i cant force anybody to think only good of me..every mind thinks n chooses in its own way..haan, if its some frnd then i do care wat shez thinking of me

(p.s. as soon as i read the topic 'perceptions', i got reminded of the chocolates named temptations : Wink

): they r really very yummy..how choco-striken i've become these days Embarassed

)
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**Thanedaar** Posts : 1802

lolzz
chocolate stricken!!
hehe
cute 1 amu!
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**Crazy Painter** Posts : 1204

great topic henna

coming to topic.
perceives most of think i am angry nd shy as i am not opened to all i am very shy type of person i dont easly trust ple nd if i trust them them i believe more than myself.but nobedy nows ki i get angry very easly on small things which i show on most of the time on others.ple keep saying control u anger bt kambaqt it dosnt control.and also if somebody dosnt talk to me properly i end thinking ki what i have done wrong and spoil my whole mood.
coming to other part yes others words matter to mee i try to see there point of view too

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